Always Keep Calm.

So the other day I was watching an episode of Survivor where we had a couple of people arguing quite seriously, and while both of them were in the wrong, one of them kept his cool and the other got madder and madder, as in consequence louder and louder.

Now after the episode finished and I decided to see what the forums said on the topic, it seemed everyone agreed with the guy who kept his calm and didn't react, why?

Now I'm not going to talk about what they argued, because in all honesty most of the time it doesn't matter what an argument is about. It matters who behaves better because the point of an argument isn't to prove who is right and who is wrong. People could settle that easily by talking with each other normally without resorting to yelling. The point of arguing is to make the other person look bad, because if they look worse than you do, then surely you're right.

When we see other people argue and one of them sits there calmly while the other stomps their feet, yells out-loud and generally behaves like an idiot, who will we side with? Almost surely the calmer one. Because naturally in our mind we think " Oh the other person can't handle their emotions no wonder they are yelling and acting likc children."

In fact yelling and making a scene can generally be attributed to behaving like a big baby, since really what do babies do most?

So the point of this entire post is basically to say that no matter what happens, what you fight about, how you argue. Just keep calm, because as long as you do you will look better. Anyone will look wrong if they start throwing furniture around and yelling like a lunatic, and even the wrong person can make themselves look right simply by being calm.

Perspective Part 2 Right and Wrong

Howdy, with my university starting on Monday I guess this might be my last post for this holiday unless I write something tomorrow, so lets get to it.

One thing I have always loved, is how we all interpret right and wrong differently then others, what is acceptable for some is a crime for others, in some cases it literally is a crime for others, like for example polygamy.

Is this wrong?

Yet I'm not so interested in whats legal and what isn't, every place uses a different method of determining that, no what I enjoy is the human aspect of it, of how we come to the conclusion of whether what we are doing is in fact right or wrong, like cheating in exams or lying, is something wrong if it saves us from grief?

Firstly lets determine the common ways we judge is something is wrong or right.

Laws.

The law is the most common way to determine what is right and wrong, why? cause basically if you do something illegal, you're caught and will get some form of punishment, the law is somewhat effective as a way to determine whether you should or should not do something, Infact I'd say its very effective, what stops a lot of people from killing others is the idea that if they do, they will be in prison for the rest of their lives or worst be sentenced to death ( if they are caught)

However, the law itself is..... well odd to say the least, for one thing laws are not universal, whats legal in one country is not legal in another, in France you can get a license for prostitution, in Saudi Arabia you'll get an axe instead, so which one is right and which one is wrong?

Another thing about the law is it can be cruel, not all people are judged equally, the law may take into account the motives of the individual and while it usually does do a good job, it has its royal screw ups occasionally.

Aint life fair?

One thing that interests me most about the law is self-defense, I read a story recently about a man who was robed at gunpoint, but he wrestled the guy and got his gun, when the robber tried to run away he shot him. Three times.

Would that count as self-defense or murder? I mean the dude was running, he had no weapon and was no threat, yet he could have been going to call his gang mates to help him out, Hmm....

How would you judge him?

Religion

Ah religion, Where as the Law is based on what I consider large scale things, Religion is more towards everything in life including the Law.

In fact in some countries the law is based on the religion used, but is that the right thing?

Religion is a sensitive issue, since some people have their own religion and some people dont, saying more about it might offend.

However lets compare the law to Religion.

Where as people follow the Law because its either you do that or get imprisoned, Religion tends to be the other way, where as the Law can be summed up as " do this and get punished". Religion is more of " Do this and be rewarded"

So which one do you follow when love and duty come in conflict?