I wonder if the title is a bit misleading, but anyways I believe we can choose to be happy yet for some reason many people either dont want to be happy or just dont know how to be.
Imagine yourself in a dark room, and you're holding a flashlight, in this room there are all kinds of sights, good and bad and you can choose where to shine your flash light on, will you choose to focus on the good things and be happy or the bad things and be miserable?
Too often we forget the good things we have in life and focus on the one bad thing yet its our choice to give it attention even when its far away and no longer affects us. For some reason its easier to feel down and miserable than to put in effort into being happy.
Think of the world for a second, right now it has wars going on, extreme poverty that people sleep starving and a natural tragedy every few months, but what exactly can we do about it?
Aside from donating to these countries, we cant do much so after doing what we can its easy to stop thinking of these situations because they dont affect us, yet if you kept thinking of them eventually you'd feel sad about the state of the world.
Our daily problems get bigger simply because we give them too much attention, you can confront a problem and resolve it, or you can ignore the problem and forget about it, the worst thing you can do though is dwell on it and have someone or some issue ruin your happiness.
We give our problems power over how we feel when we pay too much attention to them, we're only human and of course we feel down from time to time but staying down and feeling horrible is a choice we make after that, a choice we make all too often.
The world isnt here to make you happy, so make your own happiness because no one can make you happy if you're determined to be miserable.
Thursday, 21 March 2013
Tuesday, 19 March 2013
Naruto 624 review
Ah finally, after a break for a week Naruto is back and continues its flashback of Hashirama and Madara's past.
The chapter starts exactly where the 623 left off, with heads of both clans engaging each other and from the first page it states that the current heads are equals in terms of battle prowess.
What does this mean? it means the battle wont be decided by the adults but by the children, however both Tobirama and Izuna are equal in strength as well, leaving only Madara and Hashirama as the wild cards of the battle field, whoever wins the fight between those two wins the war between Senju and Uchiha.
What I found interesting was how both parents went for the other's son instead of each other, after a brief clash they both thought it would be easier to simply kill the other's offspring and hope the shock of seeing their child die infront of their eyes would be enough to weaken his rival.
A very cold thing for a father to do to another father and it further shows the hatred between Uchiha and Senju from just one panel of how they would throw kunais at children in the hope of getting a small advantage.
However both of the older siblings finally interferes in protecting their younger brother, its interesting how they both do that, they protect their brothers with each other's stones, and not their own.
Another thing I found interesting was how a rock can stop a sword and a kunai but the I thought this is a callback to something Zetsu said much earlier.
I get the feeling from the panels shown that already Hashirama and Madara had surpassed their fathers in strength. Sadly protecting his brother convinces madara that peace is not possible anymore and he therefore gives up on his dream and seems to almost join his father, with regret though, but even though he might be willing to fight Hashirama he knows he would lose and tells his father as much.
In almost every instance of comparing strength, Madara has admitted he is weaker than the first Hokage and this trait apparently started very early in their rivalry.
Madara awakens his sharingan, and promises to meet Hashirama on the battlefield, the first time of many to come, and after many battles finally the Senju decide enough is enough and opt for a treaty between the two clans.
Despite all their battles Hashirama still wants peace, this is consistent with what Tobi said earlier about how the Senju approached the Uchiha for a peace treaty and here we see the start of that, sadly though it only happens after the death of Izuna.
Its mentioned that the Senju are stronger than the Uchiha, which conflicts what Tobi said though who said the clans were equal, it would seem that in their time in the cave Madara may have lied to Tobi about some key aspects of their history.
It seems Tobirama's slash earlier killed Izuna and in his last moments he gave his eyes to Madara, for once you can see why Madara thinks peace is impossible, he just lost his brother to a man who keeps talking about peace yet Hashirama's own family kills more Uchiha.
Finally Madara lies defeated and asks to have a swift death, Tobirama's all too willing for that yet before he can deliver the coup de grace, Hashirama interferes to protect his old friend.
While this may show the first hokage's mercy it also shows weakness I think, the cycle of hatred could have been ended right then and there with the death of Madara, especially considering what had happened afterwards, had he just killed him the whole shinobi world war wouldnt exist right now.
I dig the death glare quite a lot, a nice reminder of whose boss between the brothers.
Our chapter ends with Madara proposing that to gain his trust, either Hashirama or his brother must die, yet knowing that they both become future hokages that obviously wont happen, my guess is that Hashi says he will kill himself but is stopped before he does by Madara, who becomes convinced peace might exist just by watching what Hashirama is willing to sacrifice to achieve it.
And thats all from me for this chapter, thanks for reading.
The chapter starts exactly where the 623 left off, with heads of both clans engaging each other and from the first page it states that the current heads are equals in terms of battle prowess.
What does this mean? it means the battle wont be decided by the adults but by the children, however both Tobirama and Izuna are equal in strength as well, leaving only Madara and Hashirama as the wild cards of the battle field, whoever wins the fight between those two wins the war between Senju and Uchiha.
What I found interesting was how both parents went for the other's son instead of each other, after a brief clash they both thought it would be easier to simply kill the other's offspring and hope the shock of seeing their child die infront of their eyes would be enough to weaken his rival.
A very cold thing for a father to do to another father and it further shows the hatred between Uchiha and Senju from just one panel of how they would throw kunais at children in the hope of getting a small advantage.
However both of the older siblings finally interferes in protecting their younger brother, its interesting how they both do that, they protect their brothers with each other's stones, and not their own.
Another thing I found interesting was how a rock can stop a sword and a kunai but the I thought this is a callback to something Zetsu said much earlier.
I get the feeling from the panels shown that already Hashirama and Madara had surpassed their fathers in strength. Sadly protecting his brother convinces madara that peace is not possible anymore and he therefore gives up on his dream and seems to almost join his father, with regret though, but even though he might be willing to fight Hashirama he knows he would lose and tells his father as much.
In almost every instance of comparing strength, Madara has admitted he is weaker than the first Hokage and this trait apparently started very early in their rivalry.
Madara awakens his sharingan, and promises to meet Hashirama on the battlefield, the first time of many to come, and after many battles finally the Senju decide enough is enough and opt for a treaty between the two clans.
Despite all their battles Hashirama still wants peace, this is consistent with what Tobi said earlier about how the Senju approached the Uchiha for a peace treaty and here we see the start of that, sadly though it only happens after the death of Izuna.
Its mentioned that the Senju are stronger than the Uchiha, which conflicts what Tobi said though who said the clans were equal, it would seem that in their time in the cave Madara may have lied to Tobi about some key aspects of their history.
It seems Tobirama's slash earlier killed Izuna and in his last moments he gave his eyes to Madara, for once you can see why Madara thinks peace is impossible, he just lost his brother to a man who keeps talking about peace yet Hashirama's own family kills more Uchiha.
Finally Madara lies defeated and asks to have a swift death, Tobirama's all too willing for that yet before he can deliver the coup de grace, Hashirama interferes to protect his old friend.
While this may show the first hokage's mercy it also shows weakness I think, the cycle of hatred could have been ended right then and there with the death of Madara, especially considering what had happened afterwards, had he just killed him the whole shinobi world war wouldnt exist right now.
I dig the death glare quite a lot, a nice reminder of whose boss between the brothers.
Our chapter ends with Madara proposing that to gain his trust, either Hashirama or his brother must die, yet knowing that they both become future hokages that obviously wont happen, my guess is that Hashi says he will kill himself but is stopped before he does by Madara, who becomes convinced peace might exist just by watching what Hashirama is willing to sacrifice to achieve it.
And thats all from me for this chapter, thanks for reading.
Monday, 18 March 2013
Do Nice Guys Finish Last?
Very rarely yes, but if they do finish last its generally because they arent nice to begin with.
The media has given a lot of sterotypes based on race and gender yet probably the one guys can identify with the most is the "nice guy" stereotype, which basically states that no matter how nice you are to a woman she wont like you because you are nice, she'd prefer instead a jerk who "treats her badly".
Or so the media would have us believe.
The thing is that those so called "nice guys" arent really nice to begin with, they dont act this way because of who they are, they act nice to girls because they somehow thing that if they are nice to the girl they love, for some reason she will love them back because they are so nice.
Thats the issue those Nice Guys face, instead of genuinely being nice to a woman out of respect for who she is, they instead are nice to her because they expect something in return, its how they think life should be apparently, if they are nice to a woman, for some unknown reason she has to be their wife. You wont see Nice Guys being nice to people who dont benefit them, because they dont need anything out of them so why waste time being nice?
Thats the problem with being fake nice, its not real and people will see through it eventually, acting nice isnt the same as actually being nice and deep down those Nice Guys are hardly nice at all, they try to manipulate women into loving them by pretending to be nice when in fact they themselves have no single good quality to begin with.
well perhaps no good quality is a bit much, they have some good qualities but not one people are interested in, even if a person is genuinely nice they need more than that, would a guy date a girl if all she had was a "nice attitude"?
Nope, guys want a girl who has it all, but for some reason they expect girls to like them just for being nice, while they are boring, weak unfunny people, why do Nice Guys think a girl will love them when they dont love themselves?
No girl wants a guy who is rude and disrespectful to her, guys should be nice, but that shouldnt be All they are.
The media has given a lot of sterotypes based on race and gender yet probably the one guys can identify with the most is the "nice guy" stereotype, which basically states that no matter how nice you are to a woman she wont like you because you are nice, she'd prefer instead a jerk who "treats her badly".
Or so the media would have us believe.
The thing is that those so called "nice guys" arent really nice to begin with, they dont act this way because of who they are, they act nice to girls because they somehow thing that if they are nice to the girl they love, for some reason she will love them back because they are so nice.
Thats the issue those Nice Guys face, instead of genuinely being nice to a woman out of respect for who she is, they instead are nice to her because they expect something in return, its how they think life should be apparently, if they are nice to a woman, for some unknown reason she has to be their wife. You wont see Nice Guys being nice to people who dont benefit them, because they dont need anything out of them so why waste time being nice?
Thats the problem with being fake nice, its not real and people will see through it eventually, acting nice isnt the same as actually being nice and deep down those Nice Guys are hardly nice at all, they try to manipulate women into loving them by pretending to be nice when in fact they themselves have no single good quality to begin with.
well perhaps no good quality is a bit much, they have some good qualities but not one people are interested in, even if a person is genuinely nice they need more than that, would a guy date a girl if all she had was a "nice attitude"?
Nope, guys want a girl who has it all, but for some reason they expect girls to like them just for being nice, while they are boring, weak unfunny people, why do Nice Guys think a girl will love them when they dont love themselves?
No girl wants a guy who is rude and disrespectful to her, guys should be nice, but that shouldnt be All they are.
Thursday, 14 March 2013
You cant change the world, but you can change yourself.
One thing I find that I completely disagree with my brother is how we would both change the world for a better place, my brother thinks that to change the world you need to change other people to be better, while I think that change begins from the ourselves first, that you shouldn't ask others to change since we are flawed, how can we tell other people to get rid of their problems while ignoring our own?
Laws and Rules exist to make sure people dont do wrong things, because we assume without them that society would collapse, the thing that keeps people in line is the threat of punishment, not personal goodness. Countries that get overthrown or suffer a revolt show the worst in people, with no law to govern them they act little better than animals, rape, murder, theft spread like fire.
Knowing all this, we have punishments for crimes in normal society, you get fined, jailed or even first degree murder depending on the severity of your crime, all this helps us reinforce the notion that bad actions will be punished.
That is how the world is right now, we tell people what to do and what we expect out of them and should they follow through they get... well nothing really, but if they disobey the laws then punishment soon follows.
My brother thinks along those lines, as do many others and it works of course. That is why we would criticize other people for their faults and tell them what to do instead. But I think thats the problem, we tell others what to do without showing them instead.
On a driving trip recently the car in-front of me suddenly stopped and I had to change lanes, no big issue yet this bothered my friend sitting next to me, he cursed and got angry at the stalled car yet I didnt see the issue myself, I just changed lanes, it was far simpler to just change my course than to sit and fume and wait for the other driver to move.
Thats how life is, at least to my eyes, people try hard to change other people when its so much easier to change yourselves and avoid problems. We get angry at our friends, family, lovers for their problems and nag them to change when in reality we could just change a littler ourselves and adapt to them much easier and avoid many problems, in time they will change because they want to, not because we nagged them over it endlessly.
So thats what I think at least, we are a small thing in a huge world, expecting to change it is just impossible, but changing yourself can happen, its not easy, we all molded into the people we are over years and experiences, but you can change and be a better person, more patient, kinder, nicer.
Lead by example, don't expect others to follow what you say, show them how to be better people by improving yourself and they will follow.
Laws and Rules exist to make sure people dont do wrong things, because we assume without them that society would collapse, the thing that keeps people in line is the threat of punishment, not personal goodness. Countries that get overthrown or suffer a revolt show the worst in people, with no law to govern them they act little better than animals, rape, murder, theft spread like fire.
Knowing all this, we have punishments for crimes in normal society, you get fined, jailed or even first degree murder depending on the severity of your crime, all this helps us reinforce the notion that bad actions will be punished.
That is how the world is right now, we tell people what to do and what we expect out of them and should they follow through they get... well nothing really, but if they disobey the laws then punishment soon follows.
My brother thinks along those lines, as do many others and it works of course. That is why we would criticize other people for their faults and tell them what to do instead. But I think thats the problem, we tell others what to do without showing them instead.
On a driving trip recently the car in-front of me suddenly stopped and I had to change lanes, no big issue yet this bothered my friend sitting next to me, he cursed and got angry at the stalled car yet I didnt see the issue myself, I just changed lanes, it was far simpler to just change my course than to sit and fume and wait for the other driver to move.
Thats how life is, at least to my eyes, people try hard to change other people when its so much easier to change yourselves and avoid problems. We get angry at our friends, family, lovers for their problems and nag them to change when in reality we could just change a littler ourselves and adapt to them much easier and avoid many problems, in time they will change because they want to, not because we nagged them over it endlessly.
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Lead by example, don't expect others to follow what you say, show them how to be better people by improving yourself and they will follow.
Sunday, 10 February 2013
Advice on taking advice
From the title I guess you could say this is advice-ception.
The human mind is an amazing thing, it can do a million operations at a time, we can think, dream plan ahead with this amazing tool, yet our minds also hate change and do whatever they can to find fault with the world and not with ourselves.
As a species we dont do well with taking advice, because we are too used to blaming other people for any bad situation we are in, its easy to find faults in them, finding faults in ourselves? uhh, we dont have faults to find anyway remember?
Still we do like to ask for advice when in a tight spot, we want to hear what other people say and how they can help us, the problem with asking for advice is after we hear it, we almost always dismiss it, believing we know best and ignoring what other people have to say.
We're not perfect, everyone says that easily, its something we all heard " nobody is perfect" yet for some reason we still think we know better than anyone else.
Listen to the message, not the messenger.
One reason I personally dont listen to people is I tend to ignore what they are saying, and focus on the person saying it instead. They can be telling me real solutions to what I'm going through, but instead of listening to their advice I instead focus on the faults of the person talking and reach the conclusion that if they have problems themselves, why should I listen to them?
The best personal example I can think of is when it comes to driving, I'm the only one in my family who drives which means I will be driving in any sort of family gathering or event, and whenever one of those happens someone will point out some flaw I have while I drive.
" Signal earlier"
" Put more space between you and other cars"
" Slow down, we're not in a rush"
Is any of the above bad advice? no it all makes sense, but instead of thinking about what they say my mind automatically goes " they cant drive, why should I listen to them? they dont know what they are talking about".
Yet I might avoid an accident if I just listen to such basic advice without getting full of myself.
Judging the messenger and not the message is the easiest way of ignoring advice, if a serial killer said " Killing is bad" most of us would go " who is he to tell us that?" instead of just agreeing with the simple fact that killing is indeed a bad thing.
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Oh you've read this far? have a cookie:D
The human mind is an amazing thing, it can do a million operations at a time, we can think, dream plan ahead with this amazing tool, yet our minds also hate change and do whatever they can to find fault with the world and not with ourselves.
As a species we dont do well with taking advice, because we are too used to blaming other people for any bad situation we are in, its easy to find faults in them, finding faults in ourselves? uhh, we dont have faults to find anyway remember?
Still we do like to ask for advice when in a tight spot, we want to hear what other people say and how they can help us, the problem with asking for advice is after we hear it, we almost always dismiss it, believing we know best and ignoring what other people have to say.
We're not perfect, everyone says that easily, its something we all heard " nobody is perfect" yet for some reason we still think we know better than anyone else.
Listen to the message, not the messenger.
One reason I personally dont listen to people is I tend to ignore what they are saying, and focus on the person saying it instead. They can be telling me real solutions to what I'm going through, but instead of listening to their advice I instead focus on the faults of the person talking and reach the conclusion that if they have problems themselves, why should I listen to them?
The best personal example I can think of is when it comes to driving, I'm the only one in my family who drives which means I will be driving in any sort of family gathering or event, and whenever one of those happens someone will point out some flaw I have while I drive.
" Signal earlier"
" Put more space between you and other cars"
" Slow down, we're not in a rush"
Is any of the above bad advice? no it all makes sense, but instead of thinking about what they say my mind automatically goes " they cant drive, why should I listen to them? they dont know what they are talking about".
Yet I might avoid an accident if I just listen to such basic advice without getting full of myself.
Judging the messenger and not the message is the easiest way of ignoring advice, if a serial killer said " Killing is bad" most of us would go " who is he to tell us that?" instead of just agreeing with the simple fact that killing is indeed a bad thing.
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Oh you've read this far? have a cookie:D
Sunday, 27 January 2013
Every problem is minor...unless its Yours.
Been a long time since I blogged, cant say I havent missed it yet with life and everything that comes with it I have been quite busy, still I hope I can update this ( semi) frequently from now on.
So to start out with I'll talk about something that has been on my mind a lot recently, and its not something you hear about a lot, what is it?
Its Empathy.
So to start out with I'll talk about something that has been on my mind a lot recently, and its not something you hear about a lot, what is it?
Its Empathy.
em·pa·thy
noun
"the intellectual identification with or vicarious experiencing of the feelings, thoughts, or attitudes of another. "
Seems overly scientific, basically its just we feel what others feel without being in their situation, sounds easy? well...no
Thing is a lot of people minimize others problems and consider them small and insignificant, its only when that same problem happens to us that we realize just how bad and painful it can be.
Ever had someone come to you with a problem that you just found ridiculous? or seemed like such a small tiny affair to you? and what do we all say in those situations?
"Oh it will be fine, I'm sure it will pass, just be patient, relax, dont get mad, it will all work out I'm sure"
"Oh it will be fine, I'm sure it will pass, just be patient, relax, dont get mad, it will all work out I'm sure"
We like to think we are helping people by saying that, but we're not, we like to think we're being nice and empathic, but we're not.
We arent feeling what they are, or doing anything useful, all we're doing is telling them the same crap everyone else is saying, stuff they already know. So what exactly should we do?
Honestly, I find the best thing to do is be quiet and actually try to imagine what they're feeling, I havent been in their situation but I have been hurt before, so we should all try to offer less problem solving suggestions and more plain listening and understanding.
Everyone has their issues just like you do, and just like you their issues are big problems that depress, next time a friend comes to you with their heart broken and feelings bared, do them a favor and help by listening to them, not by telling them " time heals all wounds".
Computer performance guide.
A friend of mine is writing computer articles for certain games, this is the current one he has for WOW.
http://www.logicalincrements.com/games/wow/
he wants to know what you guys think and if the dota community would like a similar article to this on.
please share your thoughts on this.
http://www.logicalincrements.com/games/wow/
he wants to know what you guys think and if the dota community would like a similar article to this on.
please share your thoughts on this.
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